What makes someone a “best friend?” Can you have multiple “best friends?” Or do you think that classification can only apply to a single person? Do you have to talk to your bestie every day? Or is that part of the definition of a best friend? Someone that you don’t necessarily have to talk to every day?
Personally, I’m of the opinion that you can have multiple best friends-not many, just more than one. I also believe that part of what makes this classification of friend so incredibly special, is the unique ability to not talk to one another for days, weeks, sometimes even months at a time, and still be able to pick right back up where you left off. It doesn’t get awkward from the lack of communication, and you both understand that life just gets busy, but that doesn’t have anything to do with the amount of love you have for one another.
I’m so incredibly thrilled, because this week, I get to see one of my very best and oldest friends! We literally grew up together and went to the same school. Growing up, we were often in the same classes-it wasn’t really until 6th grade came around that we realized how awesome the other person was. We clicked over rehearsing for the Junior High talent show and were pretty much cemented as a duo ever since. As a side note, I feel like it should be mentioned that we danced away to Brittney Spears’ “Drive Me Crazy” and bless our little hearts…. I have never been known to be the most graceful, but we sure did feel like rock stars up on that stage. Thankfully, we never heard anything but praise for our performance, which was so kind and generous of everyone because we clearly had no future in dancing. We had fun, and that was all that mattered to us.
Looking back, our unspoken motto of having fun together is really what helped shape us into who we are today. In Junior High, we were both nerdy, clumsy, awkward, and all those other words that everyone uses to describe themselves in junior high. With our braces, bangs and band instruments, we conquered the junior high world without too much of a scratch, thanks to our little bubble that we created together. We were awkward together, and we didn’t pay any attention to what the rest of the world (school) thought of us. The older I get, the more I realize just how lucky we both were, not only to have each other, but to be able to leave junior high mostly unscathed. I would truly hate to be a junior high girl today…but that’s probably an entirely different post.
As we headed into High School, we were still attached at the hip, but we allowed a few more people into our little bubble. We played tennis together, and while her passion was playing the clarinet in the marching band, mine was always tennis…and she eventually came around and joined the tennis team. We were together every single day, throughout most of the day, and when we weren’t together, people always asked us where our counterpart was.
We had all of the firsts together-crushes, boyfriends, breakups…all the usual stuff. When graduation came around, I don’t think either of us knew how we would possibly survive the actual world without each other. I was staying in Texas for college, and she was moving out of state. We both cried when we said our goodbyes, not really knowing when we would see each other again.
Through all four years of college, whenever either of us would have a major event, we would call the other one. We’ve always had a presence in each other’s lives, and we try to catch up whenever we possibly can-even if that means running errands for the spare hour that we have when we’re both in town.
She’s still across the country, and with her husband’s job she doesn’t know where they will end up next. Thankfully though, wherever they end up, it will only be a plane ride (or two) away.